tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017771259407235224.post2788674292827894840..comments2023-07-31T07:31:07.154-07:00Comments on Life In Monkeyland: SilenceUberDorkGirliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13102541314889892451noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017771259407235224.post-69814762938269558692010-04-02T13:37:32.972-07:002010-04-02T13:37:32.972-07:00I am not good at condolences or answers unless the...I am not good at condolences or answers unless they're based in facts, but I'll give it a shot. Even as I type this, I realize that you may not be looking for answers so much as sympathy. If so, I apologize in advance.<br /><br />Why haven't they responded?<br /><br />Yeah, they could be scared. They could be thinking. You may have brought up uncomfortable points, or, in bringing whatever the situation is to the forefront and into consideration, you may have introduced an introspection on their part that raises questions they had never even considered. <br /><br />You may have... and I am sorry for this one, but truth is truth... you may have, in initiating the confrontation / discussion, put them into a position in which they considered and found that they were no longer interested in the status quo.<br /><br />Not that I am blaming you for it or suggesting that it was your fault, just that sometimes, when pressed, people accelerate the thought processes that they would have otherwise taken some time to work through.<br /><br />Do you matter? Did you ever really matter?<br /><br />Yes. Whether you matter to the person in question, well, I don't know. They're the only ones that can answer that one for you, and people are notoriously deceptive there.<br /><br />Why say you love someone...?<br /><br />Maybe they mean it and they're sorting out feelings. Maybe they don't know if they mean it or not and they don't want to continue to be unfair if they do not. Perhaps they could not break your heart in real-time. I don't know.<br /><br />Do you just walk away? Do you wish you would?<br /><br />You that the only person who can answer those questions is you. I gather that this isn't a minor issue. Is it workable? Do you want to work with it? Or is it always going to bother you? Are you willing to feel like this again if the past repeats itself?<br /><br />What did you do?<br /><br />Most likely, you did nothing wrong. That's not how these things work.<br /><br />I once told you that should you need advice or insight of the sort that I can provide, I would be happy to provide as you helped me think something through. The offer stands. If I can do anything to assist, let me know.<br /><br />We're not close friends (more like e-pals) or anything, but I like you well enough to not want you to suffer any more than you absolutely have to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com