For as long as I can remember, I have always taken mass amounts of crap from someone before I stand up for myself. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll stand up for those I care about in a heartbeat. Yet, I’ve always seemed to subconsciously deem myself unworthy of the same thing.
I’ve long given people chance after chance and had a hard time cutting ties. It’s always seemed like giving up on someone. I don’t like to give up on people.
But, the flipside is not doing so is giving up on me. So, I’ve gotten better at voicing my feelings when they’ve been smacked around a bit. And today I took that one step further.
It’s going to seem ridiculously silly I’m sure, but it was a breakthrough to me. I’ve never actually “unfriended” or “deleted” or “unfollowed” someone I’ve known. I’ve blocked some crazies here and there but never someone I once deemed a friend (or more.)
Until now.
Facebook is different for me than anywhere else online. The monkeys have names. People on there have known me my whole life. Seen me naked. Gave me tissue when I’ve cried. Hell watched me give birth. There’s an intimacy the exists there that doesn’t anywhere else.
I realized that if someone is okay with being a complete and utter douchebag to me, than they do not have the right to that intimacy.
So, one click of the button has solved that. And it feels pretty damn good. :) It also kinda sucks.
Yes it does when you have to do that. But in the end, you have to think of yourself and yours first. And if someone has done that, then the button needs to be pressed.
ReplyDeleteI went down this road a while back, twice in fact. I found out that my personal/private life was being used against me at work...and since I didn't know "who" it was from work, everyone from work is gone..."one click".
So I completely understand and can sympathize with you. Just remember what is most important to you and you'll be fine. Maybe at some point that person may come to their senses and get a clue? It's possible...there is always hope! ~huggles~
ugh, i feel ya missy. I have gotten to this point with someone as well, someone who once meant a lot to me. But it's not easy. I haven't yet had the courage to delete.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you must do what you have to. I'm the kind of person who wants everyone to like me. I can't imagine someone thinking I dislike them even if they hate me. I give everyone the benefit of a doubt and a chance, but there comes a time when you may have to sever ties regardless of how hard it hurts.
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